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Parts To Partners

Recently there has been plenty of discussion about our parts. Which has got me musing away…
My most recently calmed part was my achiever. Let’s call her Archy.

Archy was deeply ingrained in my psyche, having been born into a family who had to win at everything, sport, academic studies, party games (why did we still get invited?)

Archy was my hope for gaining a feeling of being loved.

However, since realizing this, and having a quiet chat with Archy, she has settled into enjoying watching me do what I enjoy doing and doing my best but leaving the rest (as in not seeking love or praise for any of it, just enjoying what I do for its own sake.)

So I reckon it took Archy and myself a few years after my recovery from CFS to settle down into our present partnership.

My protectors (Stan and Jean-Charles) and my safety seeker (Sam) really helped me through my childhood in fighting off viruses and common childhood ailments, resisting bullying etc. Also through my adult life where I seemed to attract and be attracted to controlling people (comfortable with what was familiar.)

However when my parts began to encourage me to be aggressive towards or to hide away from people or situations where there was no real danger it became less of a help for me. Telling a complete stranger off for not having their dog on a lead was foolhardy for me to do. (I nearly said “ foolhardy on my part” as it was, but didn't want confusion re part and parts.)

So we had a few chats, and now they are my partners too.

Similarly with any other parts which have reacted or ever will react to F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real.)

I have become safe in the knowledge that my partners are there and will keep me safe when a real threat has occurred, and also allow me to settle back into serene mode when the threat has gone.

Margaret Cory

Having been forced to stop working aged 53 due to CFS, I was later diagnosed with Fibromyalgia as well. (With the added challenges of hypersensitivity to chemicals, smells, various foodstuffs, bright light, noise, etc.)

10 years later I found the Gupta Program and started my recovery. Wanting to pay back some small part of what I owe the Gupta Program I later volunteered to be a moderator in the Facebook Gupta Forum.

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