How To Stay Motivated During Recovery


Many questions for coaching are about how to keep motivation. At least 6 months commitment is asked which means we all try to keep our work going, doing the hour of power, the stops or accelerator through the day, going out of the house and doing the little things that bring joy. It is easy to make a perfect picture in our heads how ‘retraining’ looks like and even more, how we should do all this in a structured, well organized, committed way, every day, all day. But is it possible that these perfect pictures in our head cause us sometimes to lose motivation?

Retraining all day, every day, in a perfect way, is simply impossible…Some maybe can!! And that is great. But for me, among many, couldn’t be this perfect retrainer. When the reality is different from the perfect picture it is easy to start thinking you are failing, doing something wrong, or you should have done it better because than you would be healthy by now. The expectations we put on ourselves let to self-judgment, achiever patterns and of course it leads to the loss of motivation.

My suggestion to you is to embrace reality. Every day we are different, we feel different, our cells are different, we have different experiences which means we have to be flexible with ourselves. What works one day might not work the next. There are days that doing the retraining is easy and days that it isn’t easy at all. That is all OK! It doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong, or that you are failing, it only means that you have to adjust to your reality. You have your own pace in doing the programme and it is important that you start trusting that. Trust that whatever you do is good. Yes, you can always do more, but that is not most important. It is more important that you start to say ‘yes’ to whatever you do right now, it is the inner trust that is really calming the amygdala.

What if there is no perfect way to retrain? We are with so many different people, there is no 1 way. Get your trust in yourself back and experiment with what works for you. A tip would be, what do you need to make the process more fun? The 7-steps more enjoyable? Go find what you need, you, in your specific situation. There is no reason to be negative about yourself, let yourself off the hook and start thinking about what you need instead of  what others do and you should do, then motivation comes naturally.


Paulien Elzinga

Languages: Dutch and English

As a coach, Paulien has adopted the Amygdala Retraining Program and is a Gupta coach since 2013. She manages her practice, in which she supports clients with chronic fatigue and stress regulation issues. She guides people who are highly sensitive, helping them to navigate their inner and outer world, regaining their power and ability to find inner safety and security.

She experienced Lyme disease, EBV, chronic fatigue syndrome, among other health issues, from an early age, and used the program as part of her recovery.

Her coaching mainly centers around the Gupta Amygdala Retraining program, but she also incorporates knowledge from her background in Social Psychology (MSc, Utrecht University), NLP, Meditation and Mindfulness, Healing Touch (Biofield therapy/energy healing), and her studies into Transpersonal Psychology. She has drawn a lot of inspiration from the work of Caroline Myss, who had a major impact on her intuitive development, which she sees as a fundamental step into her healing as at some point in life it is required to put our trust and faith back into ourselves.

As a coach, she is known for her gentle and compassionate nature and her clear insights into rather complex situations.

Paulien works from the Netherlands (Haarlem) and France (Lyon), offering sessions mainly through Skype. You can contact her for a free introduction call.

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Skype: liefcoaching

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