Are you Weak or Strong?
Cowardly or Courageous?
Cruel or Compassionate?
Defeatist or Stoic?
Intolerant or Tolerant?
Impatient or Patient?
Imagine you are writing your CV for something important to you (maybe even to join the Jedi order as a guardian of peace and justice!)
What are the qualities you can see in yourself which would qualify you for this?
Above, I’ve listed a few possibilities, and their opposites.
In my opinion every single person in the forum can truthfully tick the right-hand choices in my questions.
However you feel about yourself, this is how I see you.
How can we be strong in character without having felt weak?
In spite of feeling weak at times (?!) you have been strong enough to keep on keeping on.
How can we be brave without having felt fear?
Even though the conditions we live (or used to live) with can be pretty frightening, you are brave enough to join the forum and write down (carefully, so as not to cause problems for others) how you have been frightened, and sometimes how you have overcome that fear. Telling others how we feel takes courage.
I have not seen cruelty expressed in the forum. But I have seen oodles of compassion towards each other.
Stoicism or perseverance led us to find the Gupta Program, and to keep on practising the techniques through the dippy times. So defeatism doesn’t apply (OK, I know we sometimes feel it, but then we pick ourselves up and continue.)
Tolerance: during my time in the forum I have experienced tolerance in abundance, e.g my freezing of the files and having to ask for people to add their contributions again was met with understanding and assistance, no snide comments (there are more examples, too many to add here,)
Patience: this too I have experienced in abundance whenever anyone has had to wait for replies, but even more as forum members accept that our journey can be slow, but they don’t give up.
And an extra one:
Pragmatic: my learning to be pragmatic is one of the keys to my recovery, and I see forum members progress in their retraining, with the pragmatic acceptance (of what ‘’is’’) definitely seeming to help them too. Stopping fighting it, accepting it and allowing it to happen so it can pass.
Give yourselves an award for being humane.
And thank you to all the Gupta Program Facebook forum members for being an inspiration for this post.